I find myself writing in my journal today, reflecting on the past three months and asking myself… It’s the end of March—what are you going to do when things don’t go as planned? Do you throw in the towel and start over next year? Or do you start over tomorrow? I thought of you, gorgeous… what would you have done?

We can all agree that most of the time, the things we wanted to happen do not go as planned. It’s easy to get caught up in the disappointment and beat ourselves up when life takes a different direction. But what about the things that did happen? Do we take the time to reflect on those moments and acknowledge them?

On my end, a lot has happened—more than I sometimes take the time to reflect on. So, here’s a little bit of what I’m celebrating:

I submitted my book “Unapologetically You” for publishing.

We successfully facilitated a Leadership Conference with an amazing turnout.

I got invited to several speaking engagements throughout the year.

I kept my contract hosting and facilitating workshops and seminars.

I spent valuable time with my family, even though it meant saying goodbye to my baby sister and honoring her with a beautiful resting place.

I made the bold and scary decision to give my 3-month notice at my full-time job to pursue my passion full-time.

We achieved record-breaking collections at the non-profit organization I am part of.

I gained clarity on what I truly want to focus on moving forward.

That’s just to name a few. A ton of achievements—but yes, there are also things that didn’t go as planned. And that’s okay. Reflection helps me see that life doesn’t always follow the path I envisioned, and that’s just part of the journey. Sometimes things happen for a reason, guiding us toward growth and new opportunities.

How Do I Move Forward?

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For years, I struggled with self-doubt, people-pleasing, and the feeling that I needed to shrink myself to fit into spaces I didn’t belong. I know I’m not alone in this. Many of us go through life questioning our worth, silencing our voices, and dimming our light to make others comfortable.

Unapologetically You: How to Stop Shrinking and Discover the Power Within is the book I wish I had years ago—the book that would have reminded me that confidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room; it’s about owning who you are, unapologetically.

I’m thrilled to share that Unapologetically You is now available for pre-order! And here’s something special—if you pre-order by February 28th, you’ll receive a signed copy as a thank-you for believing in this book before it officially launches.

Why Did I Decide to Write This Book?

Because I’ve lived it. I’ve felt the weight of self-doubt, the burden of perfectionism, and the fear of standing fully in my power. And I know so many others feel the same.

This book is my way of saying: You don’t have to live in that space anymore. You don’t have to keep questioning your worth. You don’t have to wait for permission to take up space.

This book is for the dreamer who’s afraid to step forward, the high achiever who still feels like they’re not enough, the person who gives so much to others but forgets to prioritize themselves. It’s for you, if you’ve ever felt like you were playing small in a life that was meant to be so much bigger.

More than anything, I’m always reminded of my mantra:
I am not here to change the world. I am here to change someone’s world—one person at a time.
If this book reaches just one person who needs it, then every challenge, every late-night writing session, every moment of doubt was worth it.

What Was the Hardest Part About Writing It?

Two things: being brutally honest and finding the time to actually write.

Vulnerability isn’t just about sharing stories—it’s about allowing yourself to be seen, flaws and all. Writing this book meant revisiting painful moments, uncovering old wounds, and putting parts of my journey on display that I once wanted to hide. That alone was challenging.

But then, there was the practical struggle—actually finding the time to sit down and write. At first, I made the book a priority, carving out space in my schedule with full intention. But as life happened, deadlines piled up, responsibilities grew, and writing started to feel like something I had to “squeeze in” instead of something I was fully present for. And of course, the more I squeezed it in, the longer it took to finish.

I even reached a point where I had to ask for help—something I don’t always do easily. I needed someone to remind me why I started, to hold me accountable, and to push me when I started making excuses. And I’m so grateful for those reminders.

I had to stop treating this book like just another task on my to-do list and start treating it like the mission it truly was. When I shifted my mindset and gave myself permission to make writing a non-negotiable again, the words started flowing.

Because here’s the truth: If you keep waiting for the perfect time to do something, it’ll never come. You have to make the time, even when it feels impossible.

How Did I Overcome the Fear of Criticism?

I won’t lie—it was terrifying at times. But I kept reminding myself of one truth: Someone out there needs to hear this. If even one person reads this book and feels seen, if one person realizes they are not alone in their struggles, then sharing my story was worth it.

Besides, criticism will always exist. The real question is: Will you let the fear of it keep you from showing up fully in your life? I refuse to let it hold me back, and I hope this book inspires you to do the same.

Because again—I am not here to change the world. I am here to change someone’s world. And if this book helps one person reclaim their confidence and power, then I’ve done what I set out to do.

What Is My Greatest Hope for This Book?

That it sparks transformation. Not in a surface-level, feel-good-for-a-moment kind of way, but in a deep, life-shifting way. I want readers to walk away not just knowing they are worthy and powerful, but feeling it—owning it in their bones.

I want this book to be a turning point for those who are ready to stop shrinking and start fully stepping into their power.

My Favorite Part of the Book?

Chapter 7: Do You Forgive You?

There’s something so freeing about learning to release shame and make peace with your past. In this chapter, I take you with me to a sunrise in San Diego, where I sat by the ocean, burying my feet in the sand and writing a letter of forgiveness to myself.

This chapter isn’t just about letting go of the past—it’s about embracing yourself fully, even the parts you once struggled to love.

Who Was This Book Written For?

For the high-achiever who still struggles with self-doubt.
For the person who’s spent years putting others first and is finally ready to choose themselves.
For the one who knows deep down they are meant for more but feels stuck, afraid, or unsure of how to move forward.

This book is for anyone who is ready to stop shrinking, own their voice, and step fully into their power.

Ready to Begin Your Journey?

Pre-order your copy of Unapologetically You: How to Stop Shrinking and Discover the Power Within today! And don’t forget—if you pre-order by February 28th, you’ll receive a signed copy as a special thank-you for your support.

It’s time to stop questioning your worth. It’s time to step fully into your power.

And it all begins with the decision to say: I am enough.

Because at the end of the day, I am not here to change the world. I am here to change someone’s world—one person at a time.

Pre-order now and start your journey to unapologetic confidence.

Today’s blog post talks about how “self-belief is all you needed” to live your life. In my post, “5 Little-Known steps to become confident with yourself”, I shared 5 easy steps to develop self-confidence. Those steps helped me tremendously in my journey to confidence. If you have been following my blog post for quite some time and following the teachings in it. I am confident that you have developed a certain level of confidence by now.

Now, as you know, I am very passionate about confidence. Confidence is actually equal to self-belief. Self-belief means believing in yourself so that you can move to the next level of your life.

Miss World Winner of 2000, Priyanka Chopra said…

The only accessory that you need to wear well is confidence

Priyanka Chopra “2000 Miss World Winner”

I love that. But why do you think that is? Why is Self-belief a.k.a confidence the accessory that you needed to wear well?

Why is self-belief all you needed?

• If you don’t believe in yourself, who else would?
• You are more inclined to see results
• Other people are inclined to listen

If you don’t believe in yourself, who else would?

I have asked myself this over and over before when I didn’t have the self-belief. Ernie, if you don’t believe in yourself, who else would?

I know you have big dreams. I know you have desires to reach. How will you be able to get there? How will you be able to reach, your definition of success without the self-belief that you can?

Bonnie Ware, an Australian Nurse shared in her book, “The Top Five Regrets of Dying”, one of the regrets that she gathered was, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

This is huge in my culture. You may be one of those people who is living a life that others expect you to be. Like say, your parents want you to become a lawyer, so you did. But you wanted to become a singer. Something that your parents do not approve of and because you didn’t want to hurt your parents, you followed what they want you to do.

I am not saying to be a bad child and not listen to your parents, actually, I am. You may hate me for this, but I want you to do what YOU want to do. It is easier said than done, I know. But it is not selfish to do what you love. It is not selfish to do what makes you happy. Because otherwise, your self-belief will slowly go away. I know you don’t want to live an unhappy life right?

And the way to where you are and where you want to go may be rocky, but guess what? As long as you believe that you can get there. You will get there.

Another thing is, we all have fears. We have limiting beliefs. And they can cripple you sometimes. But once you’ve developed a certain level of self-belief even if you’re scared AF, you will get there. At least hold on to the idea that you are doing what YOU wanted to do. Not what others want you to do.

You are more inclined to see results

Acting in self-belief gives you results. Like I said earlier, you will face fears and limiting beliefs. They are meant to show up to protect you. Though that is a good intention it will stop you from seeing your full potential.

I’ve shared before that I wanted to become a motivational speaker. I didn’t believe that I can do it at first. I didn’t know how I will get there but I trusted in the process. Deep inside of me agrees that it is my purpose. So, I worked towards what I am called to do. Fast forward one year, and I am now a licensed public speaker. And last night, I did my very first speaking engagement. If I didn’t believe that I can do it along the way, I would have never had the results I have now.

So gorgeous, believe in yourself. Hold on to that self-belief and start taking action and I promise you, you will see results. It’s just a matter of time.

Other people are inclined to listen

I wanted to be transparent, this is not going to happen in the first attempt to show self-belief to others. Sometimes, it takes a little bit more action. But why am I sharing that once you have that self-belief, other people are inclined to listen?

Because they will. Not right away, but they will. In any field that you want to succeed in, if you exude self-belief, people will see that. They will feel it whenever they are around you. And here’s the kicker, once they have proven it, you can then impact them. Influence them. Help them. Or lead them.

Self-belief is important in order to show others that they too can reach the same level of belief that you have in yourself.

Remember the goal is to always start within! I’ve always believed that in order to influence others, I need to influence myself first. In order to grow others, I need to grow myself first. If that is your goal, well you now know that you need that self-belief first.

I cannot wait to hear your input about this blog post and as always, please share this with others whom you think need to read this. And as always…

Be Confidently YOU!