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  • Are you ready to step into your full potential?

    Have you wished that you could do more?
    You know in your deep self that you could do more! Seeing others making a change, stepping into something bigger, and seeing the results and you wanted the same. You know you can do it too but don’t know where to start, how to start, or where to even turn to? Gorgeous, I was there too! I knew I could do more. I know I am capable but I didn’t know the how, the where, and I had no guidance. so I have played small not realizing what my full potential was.
    Which did not lead me anywhere. For years, I played small and despite the big moves and the achievements that I had, it felt like something was missing. I felt stuck, unhappy, lost and I did not know why.


    It’s not until that I realized I was playing small. It’s not something I learned that I wanted to live a life with purpose. But even with that, I don’t know where to start.
    I was once this little girl with so much drive, so many dreams but I did not have the confidence to do the things I wanted to do. I actually settled because I didn’t know that I can improve.
    I learned that having confidence is a skill and it is something that I can learn. So, I did just that, I invested in myself and focus on myself!
    And gorgeous, it was a roller coaster ride but it got me to where I am now. I became passionate about it. I even learned more about self-acceptance and mindset as all three coincide with each other. It is then I had this inkling feeling to share my learnings and inspire you to apply these learnings too!
    Because once you do, you will learn your full potential. Awaken your drive, and dear, even help you reach the life that you wanted to create!
    So buckle up, let’s move together on this roller coaster ride. Learning about Confidence, Self-acceptance and Mindet.

  • From Completion to Creation: Reconditioning Myself for What’s Next

    From Completion to Creation: Reconditioning Myself for What’s Next

    Hey gorgeous,

    Yes, the title of our blog today is “From Completion to Creation: Reconditioning Myself for What’s Next”

    I don’t know about you, but these past three months have been a whirlwind of decisions, endings, and fresh starts for me.
    And if there’s one thing I’ve learned — it’s that big decisions take big courage.

    And yes… it’s okay to be scared.
    I used to think fear meant I was doing something wrong. Like maybe I missed a sign somewhere or maybe I wasn’t ready.
    But the truth is… fear often shows up right when you’re about to grow into the next level of yourself.
    And right now? I’m stepping into a brand new chapter of my life.

    Is it uncertain? Absolutely.
    Am I terrified sometimes? 1000%.
    But here’s the surprising thing…
    There’s a quiet peace in me, too.
    It’s like deep down, even with all the unknowns, I know it’s going to work out. Maybe not perfectly. Maybe not the way I thought. But it’s going to unfold in the way it’s meant to.

    Now — let’s be honest here — do I wake up every day overflowing with positive energy?
    No, gorgeous, I would be lying if I said that.
    Some days, I wrestle with doubt. Some days, I wonder if I made the right moves.
    But I also know this: it’s not about pretending fear doesn’t exist — it’s about choosing how I respond to it.

    And that’s what I want to share with you today —
    How I’m handling this new chapter in my life… and maybe, just maybe, it can help you if you’re approaching one too.

    Because let’s be real — we all face new chapters.
    We all have moments when the path ahead feels blurry and uncertain.
    And you know what? It’s okay to feel scared.
    What’s not okay is letting fear keep us stuck.
    We are not meant to shrink. We are meant to expand, grow, and become.

    Here’s what’s been helping me recondition myself for what’s next:

    1. Flip the Script

    Instead of focusing on what could go wrong…
    I intentionally ask myself,
    “But what if it goes right?”

    When my mind tries to spiral into worst-case scenarios, I breathe and remind myself:
    Possibility lives right next door to fear.
    Every time you think of what could break, think about what could be built instead.

    2. See Fear as Progress

    I’ve started seeing fear as a green light instead of a red one.
    If something feels scary but exciting? That’s usually my soul telling me,
    “Gorgeous, you’re growing. Keep going.”

    Comfort zones are cozy… but nothing extraordinary ever happens there.
    Now, I see fear and think,
    “Oh, this must be important. This must be next.”

    3. Get Crystal Clear on What You Want

    I had to get brutally honest with myself:
    What do I actually want to see happen in the next few months?

    Vague dreams create vague results.
    So I wrote it down. I spoke it out loud. I painted a clear picture.
    Because if you can’t define it… how will you ever know if you’re walking toward it?

    4. Create Accountability You Actually Like

    It’s easy to set goals and then let life distract you.
    So I asked myself,
    “How can I make it easier to stay on track?”
    For me, that looks like:

    • Having a few trusted people check in with me.
    • Setting small deadlines I actually celebrate.
    • Making reminders for myself that feel like encouragement, not punishment.

    Accountability isn’t about beating yourself up.
    It’s about building structures that support the version of you you’re becoming.

    Gorgeous, if you are entering a new chapter too… I want you to hear me clearly:

    You are not behind.
    You’re not late.
    You’re exactly where you need to be to grow into your next season.

    Fear doesn’t mean stop.
    It means you’re on the edge of something bigger than you’ve known before.
    And you, my love, deserve to step into it fully.

    Remember, as my mentor Dr. John C. Maxwell said. Growth doesn’t happen by accident.
    It happens because we are willing to recondition our minds, our habits, and our hearts…
    even when it’s scary, even when it’s uncertain, even when no one else sees the dream but you.

    This is your season to complete what needed to end —
    and create what your soul has been waiting for.

    You’re ready.
    You’re doing it.
    And I’m so proud of you.

    With you every step of the way,

    -Ernelita

  • Three Months Into 2025: Reflections, Achievements, and Moving Forward

    Three Months Into 2025: Reflections, Achievements, and Moving Forward

    I find myself writing in my journal today, reflecting on the past three months and asking myself… It’s the end of March—what are you going to do when things don’t go as planned? Do you throw in the towel and start over next year? Or do you start over tomorrow? I thought of you, gorgeous… what would you have done?

    We can all agree that most of the time, the things we wanted to happen do not go as planned. It’s easy to get caught up in the disappointment and beat ourselves up when life takes a different direction. But what about the things that did happen? Do we take the time to reflect on those moments and acknowledge them?

    On my end, a lot has happened—more than I sometimes take the time to reflect on. So, here’s a little bit of what I’m celebrating:

    I submitted my book “Unapologetically You” for publishing.

    We successfully facilitated a Leadership Conference with an amazing turnout.

    I got invited to several speaking engagements throughout the year.

    I kept my contract hosting and facilitating workshops and seminars.

    I spent valuable time with my family, even though it meant saying goodbye to my baby sister and honoring her with a beautiful resting place.

    I made the bold and scary decision to give my 3-month notice at my full-time job to pursue my passion full-time.

    We achieved record-breaking collections at the non-profit organization I am part of.

    I gained clarity on what I truly want to focus on moving forward.

    That’s just to name a few. A ton of achievements—but yes, there are also things that didn’t go as planned. And that’s okay. Reflection helps me see that life doesn’t always follow the path I envisioned, and that’s just part of the journey. Sometimes things happen for a reason, guiding us toward growth and new opportunities.

    How Do I Move Forward?

  • Unapologetically You: How to Stop Shrinking and Discover the Power Within

    Unapologetically You: How to Stop Shrinking and Discover the Power Within

    For years, I struggled with self-doubt, people-pleasing, and the feeling that I needed to shrink myself to fit into spaces I didn’t belong. I know I’m not alone in this. Many of us go through life questioning our worth, silencing our voices, and dimming our light to make others comfortable.

    Unapologetically You: How to Stop Shrinking and Discover the Power Within is the book I wish I had years ago—the book that would have reminded me that confidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room; it’s about owning who you are, unapologetically.

    I’m thrilled to share that Unapologetically You is now available for pre-order! And here’s something special—if you pre-order by February 28th, you’ll receive a signed copy as a thank-you for believing in this book before it officially launches.

    Why Did I Decide to Write This Book?

    Because I’ve lived it. I’ve felt the weight of self-doubt, the burden of perfectionism, and the fear of standing fully in my power. And I know so many others feel the same.

    This book is my way of saying: You don’t have to live in that space anymore. You don’t have to keep questioning your worth. You don’t have to wait for permission to take up space.

    This book is for the dreamer who’s afraid to step forward, the high achiever who still feels like they’re not enough, the person who gives so much to others but forgets to prioritize themselves. It’s for you, if you’ve ever felt like you were playing small in a life that was meant to be so much bigger.

    More than anything, I’m always reminded of my mantra:
    I am not here to change the world. I am here to change someone’s world—one person at a time.
    If this book reaches just one person who needs it, then every challenge, every late-night writing session, every moment of doubt was worth it.

    What Was the Hardest Part About Writing It?

    Two things: being brutally honest and finding the time to actually write.

    Vulnerability isn’t just about sharing stories—it’s about allowing yourself to be seen, flaws and all. Writing this book meant revisiting painful moments, uncovering old wounds, and putting parts of my journey on display that I once wanted to hide. That alone was challenging.

    But then, there was the practical struggle—actually finding the time to sit down and write. At first, I made the book a priority, carving out space in my schedule with full intention. But as life happened, deadlines piled up, responsibilities grew, and writing started to feel like something I had to “squeeze in” instead of something I was fully present for. And of course, the more I squeezed it in, the longer it took to finish.

    I even reached a point where I had to ask for help—something I don’t always do easily. I needed someone to remind me why I started, to hold me accountable, and to push me when I started making excuses. And I’m so grateful for those reminders.

    I had to stop treating this book like just another task on my to-do list and start treating it like the mission it truly was. When I shifted my mindset and gave myself permission to make writing a non-negotiable again, the words started flowing.

    Because here’s the truth: If you keep waiting for the perfect time to do something, it’ll never come. You have to make the time, even when it feels impossible.

    How Did I Overcome the Fear of Criticism?

    I won’t lie—it was terrifying at times. But I kept reminding myself of one truth: Someone out there needs to hear this. If even one person reads this book and feels seen, if one person realizes they are not alone in their struggles, then sharing my story was worth it.

    Besides, criticism will always exist. The real question is: Will you let the fear of it keep you from showing up fully in your life? I refuse to let it hold me back, and I hope this book inspires you to do the same.

    Because again—I am not here to change the world. I am here to change someone’s world. And if this book helps one person reclaim their confidence and power, then I’ve done what I set out to do.

    What Is My Greatest Hope for This Book?

    That it sparks transformation. Not in a surface-level, feel-good-for-a-moment kind of way, but in a deep, life-shifting way. I want readers to walk away not just knowing they are worthy and powerful, but feeling it—owning it in their bones.

    I want this book to be a turning point for those who are ready to stop shrinking and start fully stepping into their power.

    My Favorite Part of the Book?

    Chapter 7: Do You Forgive You?

    There’s something so freeing about learning to release shame and make peace with your past. In this chapter, I take you with me to a sunrise in San Diego, where I sat by the ocean, burying my feet in the sand and writing a letter of forgiveness to myself.

    This chapter isn’t just about letting go of the past—it’s about embracing yourself fully, even the parts you once struggled to love.

    Who Was This Book Written For?

    For the high-achiever who still struggles with self-doubt.
    For the person who’s spent years putting others first and is finally ready to choose themselves.
    For the one who knows deep down they are meant for more but feels stuck, afraid, or unsure of how to move forward.

    This book is for anyone who is ready to stop shrinking, own their voice, and step fully into their power.

    Ready to Begin Your Journey?

    Pre-order your copy of Unapologetically You: How to Stop Shrinking and Discover the Power Within today! And don’t forget—if you pre-order by February 28th, you’ll receive a signed copy as a special thank-you for your support.

    It’s time to stop questioning your worth. It’s time to step fully into your power.

    And it all begins with the decision to say: I am enough.

    Because at the end of the day, I am not here to change the world. I am here to change someone’s world—one person at a time.

    Pre-order now and start your journey to unapologetic confidence.

  • Thank You, 2024: A Year of Growth, Gratitude, and Grace

    As the final days of 2024 draw near, I reflect on everything this year has brought my way. It’s been a whirlwind of moments—joyous, challenging, and transformative. To 2024, I say thank you for everything:

    • Lessons that shaped me.
    • Opportunities that stretched me.
    • Blessings that lifted me.
    • Struggles that strengthened me.

    This year, my guiding word was “Consistency.” It served as both a compass and a reminder that growth is a journey, not a destination. While I’m still a work in progress, I stand in awe of the person I’m becoming.

    Thank You, 2024: A Year of Growth, Gratitude, and Grace

    As the final days of 2024 draw near, I find myself reflecting on everything this year has brought my way. It’s been a whirlwind of moments—some joyous, some challenging, and all transformative. To 2024, I say thank you for everything:

    • Lessons that shaped me.
    • Opportunities that stretched me.
    • Blessings that lifted me.
    • Struggles that strengthened me.

    This year, my guiding word was “Consistency.” It served as both a compass and a reminder that growth is a journey, not a destination. While I’m still a work in progress, I stand in awe of the person I’m becoming.

    A Year of Firsts and Full Circles

    The year started with a spark, as friends joined me on The Leader’s Edge radio show to share wisdom and inspiration. Shortly after, I hosted my very first workshop with Uplift All Foundation—an endeavor that blossomed into an incredible 12-month contract. That workshop wasn’t just about content; it was about creating space for transformation, for myself and others.

    As the months unfolded, I invited friends to teach alongside me in workshops and seminars. Their insights not only enriched the experience but also reminded me of the power of collaboration.

    I completed the Speaking Cohort with Anupama Kinatukara, a milestone that stretched me in unexpected ways. It wasn’t just about honing skills; it was about finding my voice and sharing it boldly.

    In March, a long-held dream came true when I visited my family back home while volunteering with a non-profit organization called Peace For Warriors. The cherry on top? Bringing my brother to the U.S. with me—a moment that filled my heart with gratitude.

    Milestones That Marked the Year

    This year, Stockton honored me as a Hometown Hero—an acknowledgment that left me humbled and deeply thankful.

    In August, I stood as one of the Top 10 Finalist Speakers at the International Maxwell Conference in Florida. That stage wasn’t just about recognition; it was about stepping into my calling and realizing the impact of sharing my story.

    We celebrated The Alchemist Group’s first anniversary—a milestone that represented more than just time; it represented resilience, vision, and community.

    Giving Back and Moving Forward

    Toward the end of the year, I returned to the Philippines with my incredible friends at Peace For Warriors. Together, we facilitated a Christmas celebration for native communities, creating moments of joy and connection that will stay with me forever.

    And perhaps one of the most personal victories of 2024? Completing my first personal development book. Writing it felt like pouring my soul onto paper, turning years of lessons and reflections into something I hope will inspire others.

    Relationships: The Real Achievement

    While the milestones are meaningful, they pale in comparison to the relationships I’ve built this year. Meeting incredible people, learning from their wisdom, and growing alongside them has been the true highlight of 2024.

    I still pinch myself when I realize the rooms I’ve been in and the platform that was provided to me —rooms filled with high performers who share their knowledge so generously. But what fulfills me most is sharing my own lessons and seeing how they empower others to achieve their dreams.

    Walking in Purpose

    Again my purpose is not to change the whole world, but if I aim to change someone’s world—even just one person at a time. This year, I’ve seen that purpose unfold in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

    So, here’s to 2025! A year brimming with potential, lessons waiting to be learned, and moments yet to be cherished. As Bob Burg says, “Success is not a journey of achieving more, but of being more.” Here’s to being more—more present, more intentional, more of who we are meant to be.

    Thank you, 2024. You’ve been extraordinary. Now, let’s make 2025 magnificent.

  • “Gratitude Beyond Thanksgiving: A Daily Practice for a Better You”

    “Gratitude Beyond Thanksgiving: A Daily Practice for a Better You”

    Gratitude. It’s one of those words my dad used to say a lot when I was growing up. “Always practice gratitude,” he’d remind me, almost like a mantra. But back then, I didn’t fully understand what he meant. Sure, I’d say “thank you” when someone handed me a glass of water or held the door open, but that’s just good manners, right? Gratitude felt like a nice idea—but not something I really practiced.

    Fast forward to a few years ago, when I signed up for a 90-day challenge. The idea was simple: stick to daily habits that push you to grow. Somewhere in the middle of journaling, reflecting, and breaking bad patterns, I stumbled upon my dad’s words again—this time with a fresh perspective. Gratitude wasn’t just about saying thank you; it was a mindset, a way of being that could shift everything.

    Now, gratitude is part of my everyday life. Before I go to bed each night, I list three things I’m grateful for—small or big, it doesn’t matter. Then, I add something I’m aiming for and express gratitude as if it’s already mine. It’s not magic, but let me tell you, it feels magical.

    The Benefits of Gratitude

    You don’t need to take my word for it; science backs it up. Practicing gratitude regularly can:

    • Improve your mood and reduce stress.
    • Strengthen relationships (when you’re grateful for people, they feel it).
    • Help you focus on the positives, even on the hardest days.
    • Increase your resilience, making it easier to bounce back from challenges.

    Gratitude is like a lens—it doesn’t erase life’s struggles, but it helps you see the good that’s still there, waiting to be acknowledged.

    How to Start Practicing Gratitude

    If you’re new to this, don’t overthink it. Starting small is key. Here’s a morning routine to ease into gratitude:

    1. Before You Get Out of Bed: Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and name three things you’re grateful for. They can be simple, like the warm bed you’re in, the sunlight streaming through the curtains, or the fresh coffee waiting for you.
    2. Set an Intention: Think of one thing you’re looking forward to or aiming for today. Instead of saying, “I hope I get this,” try reframing it as “I’m grateful for the opportunity to achieve this.”
    3. Write It Down: If you have an extra minute, jot it all down in a journal. Seeing your gratitude on paper can make it feel even more real.

    Gratitude doesn’t need to stay tied to holidays like Thanksgiving. It’s a daily practice that invites you to slow down and appreciate what’s already in front of you.

    I have my dad to thank for planting the seeds of gratitude all those years ago. Little did I know how deeply they would take root and grow.

    What are you grateful for today? Try starting with just one thing. You might be surprised at how quickly it shifts your perspective.

  • Why Do We Do What We Do? Exploring the Driving Forces Behind Our Actions

    Why Do We Do What We Do? Exploring the Driving Forces Behind Our Actions

    As we enter the final stretch of the year, with only three months left, it’s natural to reflect on the goals we set, the progress we’ve made, and the decisions we’ve taken. But have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you do the things you do? Why do certain goals light a fire within you while others seem like obligations? Why do some decisions feel effortless while others weigh you down?

    With the end of the year in sight, this is the perfect time to explore the driving forces behind our actions. These final months aren’t just a countdown—they offer a fresh perspective. You get to choose how you spend your time, how you finish strong, and what direction your actions take you in. Let’s explore some of the key motivators that shape why we do what we do, and how understanding them can help us make the most of the time we have left this year.

    1. Basic Needs: Survival and Security

    At the core of our motivations lie our basic needs for survival and security. Whether it’s ensuring financial stability, maintaining our health, or creating a safe environment, many of our daily actions are driven by the desire to meet these fundamental requirements. As the year wraps up, you might find yourself focusing on securing what’s essential for you and your loved ones.

    But with three months left, it’s also an opportunity to ask: Am I just surviving, or am I thriving? It’s not too late to shift from meeting basic needs to pursuing greater fulfillment.

    2. Connection and Belonging

    Humans are wired for connection. Much of what we do, whether consciously or not, is aimed at building relationships and fostering a sense of belonging. As the holidays approach, you might find yourself driven by a desire to reconnect with loved ones or strengthen bonds with friends and colleagues. This is a time when many of us reflect on the quality of our relationships.

    With this perspective, think about how you can be intentional in the way you build these connections. You get to choose who you surround yourself with and the type of relationships you cultivate.

    3. Purpose and Fulfillment

    While survival and connection are essential, many of us are driven by a deeper need: the desire to live with purpose. Whether it’s through work, hobbies, or service to others, our actions are often fueled by a need for meaning. As the year comes to a close, you might be wondering if you’re on the right track. Have you spent the year aligned with your purpose, or have you felt disconnected from what truly fulfills you?

    Here’s where the three-month perspective becomes powerful. You get to choose how you finish this year with purpose, even if it means making small changes now to realign with what matters most to you.

    4. Growth and Achievement

    We all have an innate drive to grow and achieve. Whether it’s learning a new skill, hitting a career milestone, or accomplishing a personal goal, this drive pushes us to become better versions of ourselves. As the year wraps up, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by what you haven’t achieved yet. But with three months left, there’s still time to make meaningful progress.

    Take a moment to recognize that you get to decide how you define growth and success. It doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s journey, and it’s never too late to achieve something important to you, no matter how small.

    5. Emotions and Experiences

    Our actions are deeply influenced by our emotions and past experiences. If you’ve experienced setbacks or challenges this year, your decisions moving forward may be influenced by those moments of fear, frustration, or even joy. As the end of the year approaches, emotions can intensify—whether it’s excitement for the holidays, anxiety about unfinished goals, or hope for what’s next.

    In these last three months, remember that you get to choose how your emotions shape your actions. While past experiences inform us, they don’t have to define how you finish the year. This is your opportunity to take control of your narrative.

    6. External Pressures and Expectations

    Many of our decisions are influenced by external pressures—societal expectations, family obligations, or workplace demands. Often, we find ourselves doing things not because they align with our true desires, but because they’re expected of us. With the end of the year fast approaching, it’s easy to get caught up in external pressures, especially around work deadlines or family commitments.

    But you get to decide how much of your time and energy goes into meeting these external expectations. Take stock of what truly matters to you and set boundaries if needed to finish the year in a way that serves you.

    7. Identity and Self-Perception

    Our self-perception—the way we see ourselves—plays a significant role in our actions. Do you see yourself as capable, worthy, and strong? Or do you let self-doubt hold you back? In these final months, the story you tell yourself about who you are will shape how you finish the year. If you believe in your ability to overcome obstacles and achieve your goals, your actions will reflect that belief.

    Remember, you get to choose how you see yourself and how you want to show up in the world as the year draws to a close.

    Conclusion: Making the Most of These Final Months

    With three months left in the year, now is the perfect time to reflect on why you do what you do. Whether it’s driven by basic needs, the pursuit of purpose, or external pressures, understanding your motivations can help you make more intentional choices.

    The best part? You get to decide how you finish the year. Will you let the days pass by, or will you take ownership of your actions and steer your life in the direction that feels most aligned with your true desires? These last three months are yours to shape. Take charge of your actions, make intentional decisions, and end the year on your terms.

  • Extraordinary results mean doing something extraordinary

    Extraordinary results mean doing something extraordinary

    Extraordinary results mean doing something extraordinary, this is a phrase that a friend of mine shared with me a while back. Something that I wanted to share with you as well. I would also like to give you an update on our progress. Every year the Maxwell Leadership Certified Team hosts a conference called “International Maxwell Conference” (IMC), this conference is held twice a year. One is in March, the other is in August and I always make it a point to attend the event every August.

    I attended my third IMC this year and this one was pretty special because I get to see the people I met online in person and reunite with the great friends I met in my first year of being a Maxwell Leadership Certified Member.

    These individuals are extraordinary, and they live a remarkable life. We all share the same Maxwell DNA which is, “People of value, who value people, and add value to them.” That is not all, I got to spend it with my accountability partner Carolina Zuniga. She and I were reminiscing as we walked the hallways, asking if the conference that we attended was a cult. It was unusual for us to see that everyone was so happy, helpful, and positive and we were scared. We didn’t know what to do, or what to expect. I remember being so emotional when I was checking in because it was that defining moment and week when I would be a certified speaker.

    We were nobodies, we didn’t know anyone, no one knew us and pretty much didn’t know anything, but we were both there because we believed in the process, we believed in the product and we believed that we had a voice to share.

    Three years later, we got to come back and reap the rewards of our hard work, dedication, and growth. Carolina and I weren’t just two nobodies anymore, we were known, we were seen and not to mention loved and appreciated.

    And yours truly did a thing. Part of the conference is being able to speak on the big stage… it is called, “Stage Time.” Mind you it is a hybrid conference where people around the world can attend in person and online. The in-person attendance is about 3000 plus, online is unlimited and there are about 52,000 Maxwell Leadership Team members.

    Now, to speak on that stage, you have to go through an elimination process from hundreds of videos sent to our Speaking Mentor Mr. Roddy Galbraith, of those hundreds of videos, 35 will be chosen to make it to the Semi-Finals, and from that 10 Finalist will be chosen to speak on the stage. Last August, I attempted to compete and made it to the semi-finals but not on the stage. This year, I tried again, tweaked my story, and made it to the top 10 finalists, and yes, spoke on that stage in front of thousands of people.

    I am not sharing this to brag, but to inspire you that if you have a burning desire to do something, remember, “Extraordinary results means doing something extraordinary.” I spoke on that stage, talked about a topic that I love the most, and shared on this blog… Confidence (feel free to read it again after this post).

    Opportunities don’t come while we’re sitting on the couch doing nothing, opportunities come because we work hard.

    “Well, Ernie, how do you do extraordinary things?”, you may ask. I am sharing them below:

    How do you do extraordinary things?

    Commitment

    Doing extraordinary things cannot be done without commitment. I am sure you have an idea or a dream that you want to achieve. So, I challenge you to commit to it. I did not make it to stage time last year but promised myself that I would try again this year. Despite the crazy roller coaster schedule that I have and my priorities, I made it a priority to submit my videos.

    And to be honest, the first video that I sent did not qualify as a winning video, so I had to rewrite the entire speech, record and go from there. Enough reason for me to stop… but I moved forward with it. It took a lot of effort for me because I could not find the time, but it bugged me not to do it because I promised myself that I would do it. The commitment was with me, so I had to do it.

    Consistency

    Keep at it. My mentor John C. Maxwell said, “Do not underestimate the compounding effect of consistency.” Consistency means consistently committing to the things that you said you would do. Consistently improving your craft. Showing up consistently. That is where growth happens.

    Collaborate

    You don’t have to do it alone. I get it, sometimes, we feel like it’s better to do it alone. I know this because I am an introvert, I would prefer to do things on my own, but we cannot. It takes a mentor to get you through the journey. It takes a great friend to remind you to be humble. And an army to get you where you aim to be.

    Celebrate

    As you do extraordinary things, you must celebrate your wins. Always celebrate your wins regardless of whether it’s big or small. You deserve to be celebrated.

    And that is how you do extraordinary things. You see there is nothing special about it, it’s pretty laid out actually, it only becomes difficult when we overanalyze. When we let fear take over and listen to others who don’t have the results that wanted.

    So, today, I challenge you to do extraordinary things, and apply the 4 Cs! Commit to whatever it is that you have a burning desire to achieve. Consistently taking action towards it, regardless if the action is small, it’s better than doing nothing at all. Collaborate with others, do not hesitate to ask for help. It’s okay not to know everything, that is why we leverage other people’s expertise. Lastly, Celebrate… You. Your wins, your results, your triumphs, your achievements. You deserve to be celebrated.

    If you found value in this blog post, please share it with others, it’s the only way we can spread the value to others. Always remember…

    Be Bold,

    Be Radiant,

    Be Confidently… You

  • Do it scared! Because why not?

    Do it scared! Because why not?

    Now, this is very bold but as you may know me by now, I aim to be bold. Do it scared, because why not?

    In the past year alone, I have made nerve-wracking, mind-blowing, and flat-out scary decisions! Sometimes I have to pinch myself because I can make those decisions in a heartbeat. As you may know though, I was not like this before, remember the teaching I had, The 5 Little Known Steps to Becoming Confident in Yourself? I recommend reading it again, these are the things that I applied to get the mindset I have today.

    Now going back to our topic, I did something scary today. And I wanted to share it with you… what is it?…

    I just signed a contract to have a coach who will keep me accountable to finish the book that I am working on and who will help me get it published. Scary right? I am sharing this not to brag but to highlight two things.

    You can do it scared

      It’s a rare breed of individual who does not feel fear or does not get scared, especially in unfamiliar situations. But it does not mean that it should stop us from doing something we have a burning desire to do. Fear is an indication that we are growing.

      Failing is part of the journey

      As hard as this may sound, failing is part of the journey. It took me a while to accept this fact but I learned that the more I make attempts the more I learn, The more I take action, the more I gain clarity.

      “I can’t afford to fail, Ernie!” you may say, and I agree, but how will you be able to get to where you need to be without testing the waters, exploring the possibilities, or even just taking the first step?

      But “How do you do it scared” you ask.”

      1. Remind yourself why you’re doing it

      2. Find people who will push you and inspire you

      3. Take it one step at a time

      Remind yourself why you’re doing it

      As I wrote my book and had set goals for a time when to finish it, I noticed that I was not getting where I wanted to be. I know my purpose in writing the book, is to reach YOU. To have something where you can pick up and gain some insights and tools that you can apply right from your phone or bag. A book where you can keep reading until you can have the confidence you’ve always wanted. I was not writing the book for me.

      Find people who will push and inspire you

      As I have mentioned, I didn’t have the results where I wanted to be, so I reached out to a friend of mine who became my coach. He helped me realize why writing was not my priority. He then proceeded with how it’s a disservice to YOU whenever I do not prioritize the book. And that alone lit the burning desire I had when I first thought of writing the book.

      Take it one step at a time

      Yes, results are more apparent when taking things one step at a time versus bulk steps sporadically. I understand that we want instant gratification but it does not work that way. Consistency is very important as you already know.

      So, do it scared, gorgeous. Remember that your results will be determined based on the actions you take and what you’re scared of is not your reality. Do it scared, because why not?

    1. Reflecting on the First Five Months of 2024: Growth, Achievements, and Embracing Imperfections

      Reflecting on the First Five Months of 2024: Growth, Achievements, and Embracing Imperfections

      As we reach the midpoint of 2024, it’s time to pause and reflect on the incredible journey we’ve been on so far. The first five months have been filled with remarkable achievements and transformative experiences at Confidently You LLC. From securing new opportunities to celebrating significant milestones, we’ve made great strides. Here’s a look back at what we’ve accomplished and the lessons learned along the way.

       Celebrating Achievements and Milestones

      1. Securing a 12-Month Contract:

      One of our most exciting developments has been securing a year-long contract to conduct workshops and seminars. This opportunity has allowed us to expand our reach, share our expertise, and empower more individuals to unlock their confidence and potential.

      2. Embarking on a Writing Journey:

      Another significant step has been the start of writing a book. This project is a labor of love, aimed at compiling our insights and experiences into a resource that will inspire and guide others on their journey toward self-assurance and personal growth.

      3. Serving in the Philippines:

      Our trip to the Philippines with the non-profit organization Peace For Warriors was profoundly impactful. Working alongside veterans and communities in third-world countries deepened our understanding of service and the meaningful impact we can have by coming together to support those in need.

      4. Moving to a New Town:

      Relocating to a new town has brought unexpected health benefits and a renewed sense of well-being. This fresh start has provided me with new perspectives and energy, enhancing my ability to serve our community with vitality and enthusiasm.

      5. Celebrating Anniversaries:

      We are thrilled to celebrate the one-year anniversary of our webinar series, “Path to Personal and Leadership Growth,” with Steve and Ernie. Additionally, we are marking the one-year anniversary of “The Leader’s Edge” and the milestone of conducting our 50th radio show episode. These milestones are a testament to our commitment and passion for personal and leadership development.

       Embracing Imperfections and Learning from Them

      Despite these accomplishments, I must acknowledge that I have struggled with my word of the year: consistency. At the beginning of 2024, I promised to write a monthly blog post, but as priorities shifted and new challenges emerged, this commitment fell by the wayside.

      However, I want to share that it’s okay. Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and it’s natural to encounter setbacks along the way. The key lesson here is not to dwell on our failures but to learn from them, pick ourselves up, and keep moving forward. It’s about resilience, determination, and the unwavering belief that we can always get back on track.

       Recommitting to Consistency

      As we move into the second half of 2024, I am recommitting to my word of the year. Consistency remains a cornerstone of our mission at Confidently You LLC. I am dedicated to rebuilding my routine and making the most of the remaining months of this year. This post marks the beginning of that renewed commitment, and I am excited to share our journey with you regularly once again.

      To all our supporters, thank you for being part of this incredible journey. Your encouragement and belief in our vision keep us motivated and inspired. Let’s embrace the challenges, celebrate our victories, and continue striving toward our goals with renewed determination and passion.

      Here’s to a phenomenal rest of 2024, filled with growth, resilience, and unwavering confidence. Always remember to be Bold, be Radiant, be Confidently You.

      With gratitude and determination,

      Ernelita Dacumos

      Founder, Confidently You LLC

    2. What lies do you tell yourself for the New Year?

      What lies do you tell yourself for the New Year?

      Happy New Year!!!

      Hi there gorgeous! First, I would like to apologize. I know, I have not prioritized this lovely website of ours (‘ours’ because this website is dedicated to you and me). Because I had more pressing content to put out and that is on our radio show “The Leader’s Edge.” If you haven’t had a chance to listen, click on the hyperlink and I am confident that it will change your life IF you apply the tools we share there.

      Where have I been?

      I thought you’d never ask. The last time I wrote here was September. October was a major preparation so that I could go on my only vacation this year which was in Ireland and Portugal. I was there from November 13th to November 24. It was a great experience and I would love to go back again. Then, the holidays came.

      I hope you had a nice Thanksgiving and Christmas celebration. If I am being honest, I am normally down during the holidays simply because I’m away from my loved ones, especially my son (long story). But it doesn’t mean, I don’t celebrate the holidays, it just means I am a little down.

      Anyway, that’s enough to share about me. I hope to hear from you in the comments below once I have published this blog post to catch up.

      Moving on! Today’s topic is about the ‘New Year.’

      This is my favorite holiday because it reminds me of my childhood. It’s the memory of my mom banging pots and pans at midnight to welcome the year. The delicious food on the table and the 12 round-shaped fruits – this is a must as it signifies prosperity and wealth.

      And my favorite memory is jumping up and down at midnight since it means that you will grow. Well, I didn’t grow but it’s one of the fondest memories I have during my childhood because I did it with my mom and my siblings.

      At this time of year, we also set New Year’s resolutions. I know I have. But I noticed that whatever it is that I have set for myself to do or accomplish in the new year, I start failing come February. I hope it’s not the case for you.

      Anyway, part of my routine is to reflect at the end of each month and as I am reflecting, it reminds me of what I used to do during the New Year. I used to set my resolutions and then fail. But three years ago, I set goals and started implementing them before the New Year. The reason why I made a change is because I feel like I was making these lies to myself at the end of the year and doesn’t fulfill my promise. Again, I hope it’s not the case for you because if it is, I will share the list of lies that I’ve told myself, and how I’ve changed it. This has been effective for me and I hope it will be for you too (if applied, that is!)

      What Lies Do You Tell Yourself for The New Year?

      New Year, New Me!

      Yes, I have used this. And it did not work for me. It’s not “New me” if I am not making a change, not just externally, but internally. I noticed that I cannot say ‘new me’ if I am not growing. If I keep going back to the same toxic relationship. If I kept avoiding doing the things I wanted to do because I was scared.

      I got to meet the new me when I applied all the teachings I have learned from the Personal Development books I have read. The most important lesson I learned when I met the new me was when I was fulfilling the promises I made to myself. Though I am not saying I don’t grow each year, without intentionality to grow, I did not see my progress and did not notice its impact.

      I promise to make a change next year!

      This makes me cringe now. It was like a slap on the face when I realized that I was waiting for another to make a change. Why can’t I make a change… Now?!?

      Dr. John C. Maxwell talks about the “Law of Diminishing Intent,” which means that the more we prolong to take action, the more we lose the momentum to do it. And it is true! I challenge you that when a thought comes to mind, do it right away. Doing so will help you feel more confident in yourself because you are fulfilling something you said you would do. The best part is you will see results right too.

      My New Year’s Resolution is….

      If you are setting a New Year’s Resolution and you’re reading this blog post, please know that my intention is not to discourage but to empower you. I am confident that the following year will be more fruitful for you if I share the mistakes I made and the changes I implemented.

      New Year’s Resolutions is only effective if you do the following:

      -Instead of making it a New Year resolution, make it a lifestyle. Let whatever it is you want to achieve be continuous, you don’t have to stop it come December 31st of the New Year.

      -Build bite-size daily tasks that you can do to make it a habit. At the beginning of my journey, I learned to set non-negotiables each day. Learning, praying, journaling, etc were examples of those non-negotiables. They helped me with my growth and today, they are the habits that I have. As it is said, “Consistency is Key.”

      -Set a ‘word’ for the year. I have a love-and-hate relationship with this teaching. Love it because it keeps me focused, but hate it because it stretches me, in a good way. Let me give you an example. For 2022 my word of the year was “Uncomfortable.” And yes, I was uncomfortable! But the outcome was, that I became comfortable, being uncomfortable. This year, my word is “Love”, I focused on loving others. I was focused on loving others alright, but I also learned to be more compassionate and now cry on every tear-jerker moment that I experience and/or see on movies, social media, etc. For 2024, my word of the year is “consistency.”

      There you have it gorgeous! I have said it’s a “lie” because it would feel like lying when it is not fulfilled. I know you’ve resonated with these lies and I challenge you to apply the changes I made. And if you do, feel free to come back to this post in a few months and share how it is working out for you. For now, I am curious, what lies do you tell yourself for the New Year?