Hi there gorgeous! Gosh, writing a blog every month can be impactful. I am now realizing how much I’ve missed writing. And I sure hope you’ve missed my writing as well. The title of our blog post today is, “Winning starts with believing that you will win!”
Now, if you have been following me for quite some time, you may have heard that my co-host and I launched our international radio show called, “The Leader’s Edge.” And you can learn a bit more about it from one of my previous blog posts, “The Leader You Aim to be is in You”
Chaz Gates, the COO and co-founder of Wondry Wine, is our special guest for today’s episode on the radio show. And the title of his radio show episode is “The Calvary Always Comes”. Feel free to listen to it, after reading this blog first.
Now, I will not share the whole show with you, but I will share one of the messages that he shared on the show. This message is a very good reminder for me, and I just realized that it tied in with the movie that I watched this evening, called “Champions” with actor “Woody Harrelson.” I highly recommend it if you have not had a chance to see it.
Now, I will not spoil the movie either but the message I have gathered is, “winning starts with the belief that you will win.”
Sometimes we are so busy setting goals, wishing to achieve something, and taking action, that we forget the most important thing, and because of this, we put a cap on our abilities. But if we practice the belief that we will win, that is half of the battle.
Why? Because believing that you will win helps you stay focused on the goal
Believing that you will win helps you stay focused on the goal
Gorgeous, your energy is valuable! Read that again! I know that fears, limiting beliefs, and inner critics exist. And entertaining these fears all the time can suck the energy out of you. But what if, you focus your energy knowing and believing that you’ve already won? Isn’t that a feel-good moment? Wouldn’t you want to feel good instead of dealing with the negative thoughts and emotions that your fears invoke?
I learned this along the way of my journey and Chaz shared it on the show too, if we work hard, treat whatever it is that we are working on as our baby. Invest every day, what do you think would be the end result? Success right?
In the book In-Vision by my great friend Niel Magsombol, he said, “Our visions are a glimpse of the future.” Now, in order for that vision to become a reality, you have to believe that it is already yours. It is already in existence, you just have to work on existing in that glimpse of the future.
Too good to be true? I know! But let me ask you this, what are you currently working towards? Maybe building a business. Working overseas. Or working your way up to your dream job. All these things, at some point in time you had a vivid image of what it looks like. That is your vision.
Now, if the vision is in your mind, why is it so hard to see that it is already done? Why is it a challenge to put yourself in it? It is because we lack the belief that it is possible.
How do you start believing? I have my teaching about confidence that having confidence starts with having the courage to take thought into action and repeatedly do it all over again.
There are three sources of courage which is where belief comes from:
1. Belief in yourself – right now, you may not have a lot but hey, this is why you are reading this blog post right? You are working on improving your mindset
2. Belief from others – this could be the faith and support coming from your friends, family, or a mentor
3. Belief in a higher power – this is where your faith is; it could be Jesus, Buddha, etc.
So there you have it, how winning starts with believing that you’ve already won, and where you can start getting that belief.
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Last night I had to opportunity to watch three amazing women speak at The Rising Stars Speaker Series. It is a local event that happens every couple of months and they bring speakers to speak at the event. One of the speakers, Keerthi Kathi, spoke about the inner voice which motivated me to write this blog post. “Quick ways to handle the “Inner Voice in your head.
What is an Inner Voice?
The conversation that you have with yourself is the most important conversation that you will have all day
– John Maxwell
Yes, you are probably asking, “what is an inner voice?” An inner voice is also known as the internal dialogue that you have within yourself. These are voices that whisper when you are about to leave your comfort zone. Most of the time, it questions you or makes decisions for you.
In my personal development journey, I have learned that inner voices are hardwired in us from our childhood experiences. To some extent, it’s from our childhood traumas.
Are inner voices bad? If you asked me 5 years ago, I would say, yes! But having the experience and knowledge that I have now. It’s quite the contrary.
How? Well, an inner voice is designed to protect you from experiencing the same pain. Or having the same reaction to a similar situation that happened in the past. See, it has good intentions. But the downside is, it can prevent you from taking the next step.
Remember my blog post, “Reasons why Personal Growth has to start within?” If not, click the hyperlink. Personal growth has to start within to battle or to handle our fears and limiting beliefs. And this one of them.
How do I use my inner voice nowadays? I use it as a guide to my growth. So let’s dive in, on how you can handle it too.
Simple ways how to Handle Inner Voice in your head
Listen to it
Ask yourself “what does it make me feel?”
Do I want to continue feeling this way?
What can I do to stop feeling this way?
When can I start doing something about it?
Listen to it
Keerthi’s speech was titled “Congratulations, You are not good enough!” This speech was structured so well that gave the negative phrase a positive meaning.
“You are not good enough”, is an example of an inner voice. When approached with something that is unusual or new for us. This inner voice usually comes up. In her story, she shared that she had this inner voice growing up. But she was able to push it to the side so that it became dormant. Until she was faced with a new task… being a mother. Being a mother is definitely hard, but a very fulfilling role. I related to her story because I too am a mother. And I didn’t know what I was doing.
I had so many inner voices about it. “You are a bad mom!”, “You think you are ready for this?” The list goes on. How I handled it? Do the best I can.
How Keerthi is handling hers right now is, she decided to listen to it. Instead of pushing it under a rug. She decided to face it.
Ask yourself “what does it make me feel?”
Here’s the coaching aspect of it. Ask yourself, “what does it make me feel?” Tough right? Bare with me though. This is necessary. For years we are told that if you get scared or faced with fear. Like an inner voice questioning you. To suck it up and move on. Wear your big girl or big boy pants and just move on. And I am here to tell you, that is the wrong way. Entertain it. Feel it. Accept it.
“What does it make you feel?” Well mostly, crappy. It makes you feel unmotivated. Weak. Helpless even.
Do I want to continue feeling this way? (Inner voice can cripple you)
Well, the answer to this next question is obvious, right? Of course not. We do not want to continue feeling unmotivated. Helpless. Or stuck. As I said, your inner voice can cripple you. Or stop you from taking action right? This question is important. Do you want it to continue doing so? I hope your answer is, NO!
What can I do to stop feeling this way?
In Keerthi’s story, her inner voice saying, “You are not good enough”, she used the changing diaper situation. Apparently, she keeps failing to change her baby’s diaper without getting pee’d on. A friend of hers asked her a question that changed her mindset. The question was, “What do you do when you don’t know how to change the diaper?” So, simple right? But it’s again, that inner voice has the power to make the easy to the hardest thing in the world. So, she googled how to change diapers, and is now a pro at it.
Same thing with you gorgeous. When an inner voice comes around, ask yourself the questions I have given you so far. And this question is important, “What can I do to stop feeling this way?” This calls for you to take action. Do your own research. Practice. Ask for help. Do something that can help you improve and learn more about the task at hand. Remember, it is all about growing and improving yourself.
When can I start doing something about it?
The answer is now! It is not later. It is not tomorrow. Next month or whenever. It is now!
“The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.”
– Jim Rohn
As Jim Rohn explained the Law of Diminishing Intent, “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.”
Again, all results will come when backed up by action. So, once you’ve learned what needs to be done to overcome your inner voice. Do not wait. Do it now.
There you have it gorgeous! Simple ways to handle your inner voice. Please share this if you found value in this blog post. I would love other people to benefit from it as well. And as always, I would love to hear how this blog post had made an impact on your life. Feel like to shoot me a message and share.
Happy Anniversary Gorgeous! Our anniversary blog post is about “The Untold Secret to Confidence”.
Wow! Can you imagine, it has been a year since I launched this website? And a lot has happened since then. And since you have been following me for quite some time, you have caught some of those events.
I wanted to take this moment to express my gratitude. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for supporting me. And thank you for taking the time to read my blogs. My wish is that you have gained a token or two from these and have applied it to yourself.
Now, let’s go back to our favorite topic, “Confidence”. I know I share about confidence a lot on this website. But last year, I had the ultimate realization about confidence. And I wanted to share that information with you. As you already know from our very first blog post, “5 Little known steps to become confident in yourself”. I shared that confidence is a skill. Since it is a skill, It is something that we can always learn and improve.
Today, I wanted to share the untold secrets about confidence. It’s sad to know that a lot of people seek confidence. Some lack confidence. I know, because I didn’t have confidence in myself before. I had to work hard to gain it. And I know, I am still working on improving my confidence to the level that I need it to be.
Now, going back to the secrets of “confidence”. It’s fairly easy really. But challenging for a lot of people.
Untold secrets to “Unconfidence”
Courage is where it starts
It takes familiarity
Repetition is key
Courage is where it starts
Courage is the first secret to confidence. You can be scared while having the courage to try. Having the courage to take action. Trust me, it’s scary most of the time. But courage is what I use to get to the next level of my journey. Uncertainty is scary. But so is winning. Regardless, we will feel uneasiness. At the end of the day though, it’s the actions that you have taken that matter.
I’m not saying it will be easy. Because everything worthwhile will not be easy. Staying where you are is not easy either. So, I challenge you today to answer this question: “What action will you take today to get you closer to where you want to be?” It doesn’t matter if it’s small. I just need you to take the courage to try.
It takes familiarity
Do you know the reason why we don’t have confidence in ourselves about something? Or confidence about doing something? Because we just haven’t done it before. Another reason is that we haven’t done it long enough.
In order to have confidence in something, you have to be familiar with it. For example, your confidence level from your first day at your new job is way different from being in the same job for a year. That is because you have become familiar. So easy right? This is why I have this as an untold secret about “confidence”.
And how do we get familiar with it? We do it over and over again.
Repetition is key
Again, we do it over and over again. But there’s a secret to repetition. It’s not just repeating it over and over again. It is doing, analyzing, reflecting, and then repeating. First is taking action. Analyze the action you have taken. Reflect on what went wrong or what went right. Then repeat with the knowledge that you have gained from your reflection.
These are the untold secrets to confidence. Very easy right? I challenge you to apply this today and share the impact it has done on you. And if you have found value in this blog post, please share it with others. It’s the only way we can spread knowledge.
To me, knowing the difference between fixed and growth mindset is important. Read through this entire blog post to find out why.
I am passionate about this topic because this is not something that is always taught in school.
Growing up, I believed that if I failed a subject in class, that meant I am dumb.
I remember in elementary and high school, the classrooms are arranged in a certain way. The ones with the highest grades in academics were in the first section. The second, third, and fourth sections are arranged as follows. And now reflecting on it made me realize that we are segregated and judged at a very young age. Because of that, it instilled a mindset that we are not as good as the ones in the first grade. That’s sad, ain’t it?
At a young age, we were taught that if we are not as good as the ones on top, we will remain at the end of the herd. A mindset that ruins our confidence in every aspect of our lives. Now, this is my observation though.
What is mindset?
My mindset was one of the things that I needed to improve in my personal development journey. But what hit home for me was learning about the difference between the fixed and growth mindset. Carol S. Dweck beautifully explained the concept of mindset through her book, Mindset. In it, she defined it as, ” “the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.”
To me, Mindset means how you view life through your own lens. It consists of your own beliefs, values, and knowledge. And the type of mindset determines how you will live your life.
Mindset by Carol Dweck Ph.D
What is it like having a fixed mindset?
Having a fixed mindset means no growth. A fixed mindset means having limitations. And fixed mindset will result in feeling stuck. I can say this because I was there too.
I’ve always believed that I cannot improve my skills. If I don’t know how to do it, I cannot learn it.
Let’s use confidence as an example. I lost my confidence in myself years ago. I moved to a completely different country without knowing its culture. It was a culture shock. Which resulted in an inferiority complex.
I lost my confidence when I divorced my husband which made me think that I will never be good enough. Or I am too much for someone.
Reminiscing my thoughts then makes me want to hug the old me. It was a devastating period of my life.
The thought of being not good enough made me feel uneasy about a lot of things. My work. How I carried myself. And how I treated myself.
I used to dim my light. Thinking that I will not measure up. I’ve always been shy and in the back of a room just observing and listening. Instead of giving my thoughts and ideas. And I beat myself up emotionally whenever I made mistakes. All that made me feel anxious.
Having a fixed mindset resulted in me taking criticism as personal. I always felt attacked when someone tells me their opinions about my work or me personally.
And the worst part of it all was, that I had the mindset of I am good enough where I am and I will not grow out of there.
What is it like having a growth mindset?
A growth mindset is just exactly what it is, growth.
Instead of thinking, I am not good enough. It is thinking, how can I improve?
It is the opposite of “I can’t”, it is saying, “how can I learn”?
Having a growth mindset looks at failure as an opportunity to grow. This was huge for me because I hated failing. I hated making mistakes then. Failing and making mistakes made me feel inadequate.
Remember when I said, I would beat myself up emotionally? It is true.
Have you tried playing the scene or situation in your head? And tried to figure out ways on how you could have done it differently? Or what could you have said differently? I did that. Many times. It gave me anxiety because I know I cannot change that situation at all. I’ve called myself names. Stupid. You suck. Dumb. Which again affected my confidence.
Do you want to know what opened my eyes in all this at the very beginning? It is when I found out that confidence is not a personality trait. Confidence is a skill. A skill is something you can learn. It is something you can improve. And I have been obsessed to learn and improve my confidence since.
Comparing the fixed and growth mindsets
Henry Ford had said…
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t. You are right!
Henry Ford
Whether you think you can, or you think you cannot, you are right! It is true! Because it is all based on your mindset!
I said earlier that having a fixed mindset will result in feeling stuck and based on my past experience, it is true.
I used to be so unhappy with my job. The politics. The stress. And the anxiety it gave me. I felt stuck. And I settled because I thought nothing is better out there.
I was also scared of starting new. I also thought that if I leave, I could fail. This was all because I had a fixed mindset.
But I had this burning desire inside of me. The desire of being happy. Being at peace. And just being me. I am not saying I wanted to live a perfect life because what is the fun in that right? I am saying that I don’t have to live an unhappy life. That, I have a choice.
So, I took a leap of faith and quit. I packed and changed my environment. Learned so many things along the way. And found a job where I felt like I mattered. The bonus part was, that I get to influence my team
And if you are not happy with your job today. If you asked me what you should do? I would tell you to do just that. Quit!
I don’t care if you are making a ton of money with your current job. I don’t care if they have a great retirement plan for you. Nor if your employers give you a lot of perks.
Quit!
Money can be earned somewhere else! Your retirement plan will be useless if you end up being sick. And most importantly perks are nothing compared to being happy. Happy where you are and doing what you love to do.
So again, a fixed mindset will limit you. If you are content where you are, by all means, you have my support. But if you want more. If you want growth. if a change is something you seek. Learn how you will get there. Grow your way. And I promise you, you will not be disappointed.
Feel free to take this knowledge and apply it in your life gorgeous. And if you found value in this post, please share it with others. This is how this blog will grow, that way we can spread positivity and confidence with others.
If you were to ask me, for advice to give someone who wants to start driving towards their goals. It would be, “Learn why it is important to invest in yourself.”
I know gorgeous; you are a dreamer and an action taker. This is why this post will definitely benefit you in your journey. That journey may be the following below, but learning to invest in yourself is a huge factor :
-starting your own business
-changing your career
-starting your career
-moving from one country to another
-or even a personal journey of becoming more confident in yourself
Now, what do I mean by investing in yourself?
When we hear the word invest, the first thing that comes to mind is ‘money’ right?
Well investing in yourself is not just about spending money. Investing in yourself means investing time, effort/energy, money.
You can make monetary investments by say investing in stocks, crypto, now NFTs. But that investment will not succeed, if you do not put the ‘time’ in to learn about the products that you are investing in. and when you put the time in, you must make an ‘effort’ to understand and learn it
You can buy all the personal development books available. But if you don’t make time to read each book. Gather the energy to take action on your learnings, then it would be irrelevant.
So, investment in yourself requires a combination of all three.
Michael Schrage, states that Knowledge alone is not power.
“The ability to act on knowledge is power.”
Michael Schrage
Which to me is quite powerful and true.
Now that you have the idea of what I meant.
Here are the five reasons why it is important to invest in yourself.
1. It is important to invest in yourself because it results in a higher ROI.
We live in today where information is easily accessible. You don’t even need to be at home in front of a computer to find whatever information you need. All you have to do is to access the web browser on your phone and you will find the information you are looking for.
And because of that knowledge, we tend to have the mindset that we can get the information we need for ‘free’. And when there is a cost or investment needed, we look in the other direction.
I know how this feels, I went through this too, but gorgeous, everything in life comes with a cost. It’s not a crime, it’s how it is. It requires a little improvement in the “money mindset” department is all.
Let me give you a few examples:
You wanted to earn a degree, right? You go to a university and what do you need to do to enroll? Money. Today there are ‘financial aid’ available that you can pay off even after you have graduated.
You wanted to buy food at a grocery store, what do you need to buy the food? Money.
You wanted a roof over your head, what do you need to get it? Money.
So why do we hesitate when we hear the word, invest?
I dove into entrepreneurship several times. The first thing they to me was I have to invest money into my business. Guess what I did?
I turned around and called it a scam.
So, I get it. And trust me, learning that to improve I needed to put money out first was tough, but guess what the outcome is?
Higher Return of Investment (ROI).
In a job, if you don’t have a degree and experience, your salary starts at a base rate. So, you go to school for higher pay right?
I’ve seen this quote but am not sure who said it…
“Billionaires lose millions to become billionaires. Millionaires lose thousands to become millionaires. Broke people want to lose nothing to become rich and successful.”
And it hit hard. So, next time you wanted to start something. And comes with a cost, reflect on that quote first before shying away from it.
Yes, you may get information for free. But I can confidently tell you that the ‘free’ information that you are getting is basic. Anything on the next level will not be free. That information is what you need to propel forward. To reach the next level on the journey that you wanted to take.
2. It is important to invest in yourself because you learn to be gentler with yourself.
As I said earlier, if you’re reading this blog post, I know that you are a dreamer and you wanted to make an impact. But to deliver, there is a lot of inner work that you need to do. And that is what we call your personal development journey.
Have you heard of the term, “Overachiever”? Yeah?
Has anyone called you an overachiever? Me too!
And it’s not a bad thing. I see it as a compliment, and I aim to function like one. But what we don’t realize is the disadvantage of having high expectations which result to:
a. Beating yourself up
I have done this many times. I’ve called myself, “stupid” because I made a mistake. “Ugly” because I cannot look good enough. And these words are damaging.
b. Being a perfectionists
If you have considered yourself a perfectionist, “Do not shoot me”. I have learned that being a perfectionist means that you are hiding from fear. Yes, you read it. Hiding from fear. And, that fear is fear of not being good enough.
c. Stress and overwhelm
This is a domino effect. If you are being a perfectionist. Ensuring that every detail is planned out to the T can result in delay. And it can be very stressful and overwhelming. I get it. I was there too.
Once you have invested in yourself. You will learn, that the journey you are taking or planning to take will take time. And will need patience.
You can still be an overachiever but an overachiever who understands. And have more patience with yourself. It does not have to be perfect, it is all about progress.
3. It is important to invest in yourself because you will live a healthy life.
Investing in yourself gives you access to a lot of knowledge if you are open to learning it. Although, I wanted you to learn one important thing in this equation, and that is YOU.
I spoke with a good friend of mine yesterday. He asked me what I am currently working on.
The conversation started because he wanted to invite me to dinner. When it comes to food, I will accept. (This is my weakness!)
Anyway, he knows that I am always working on something. I told him that I started this blog and posted content weekly.
I am halfway done with my studies to become a motivational speaker. And work, and putting out content. I asked him the same question.
Then he told his current projects. And that he is looking forward to our dinner as he had lost a lot of weight from the diet that he is currently following. Mind you, this man is very knowledgeable. And is health-conscious which reminded me of my current weight.
Vulnerability moment: I gained 25 pounds since October of last year. And haven’t done anything to lose some weight. In my defense, the weight I gained was from being sick back then and I have not set it as a priority to focus on my health.
I told him, to not laugh at me when he sees me because I have gained weight. That is when I got yelled at. Well, reminded I should say. He stopped me midway through speaking and said, “Ernie! You are busy! You are working full time. You cater to everyone who needs your help! At work and outside of work. You have a blog. You are studying. You are managing your social media. Yet you are not giving time to take care of YOU!”
Thank God, for real friends, right? And like I said, this is the journey that I am sharing with you.
I know how important it is to invest in myself and to take care of myself, which I do. But sometimes, we need something or someone who will ‘yell’ at us and tell us the truth.
So, guess what I did. I planned. I went to the grocery store, bought healthy food. Promised to lessen carbs and sweets and exercise at least three times a week.
I have been in my personal development journey for a few years now. Like I said earlier, in any journey that you take, the most important person on the equation is YOU.
So, it is important to remember that living a healthy life is part of the journey. Why?
Because like what my friend told me with the rest of my conversation with him.
I may be able to do all the things I am doing now, but it will catch on to me.
And if I don’t take care of myself enough. Who will go through ‘my’ journey? No one!
4. It is important to invest in yourself because it will give you more confidence.
Confidence is a vital asset in anyone’s success. Whatever the journey is, if there is no confidence, there will be no progress.
Confidence has a lot of meaning, but I love how Mel Robin defined it.
“Confidence is having the courage to take action and do it over and over again.”
Like the competent confidence loop. Taking action will help you become competent. Once you have done it over and over to a point where you can do it even when with your eyes close. That is where confidence is.
So, investing in yourself; taking the time to learn, making an effort to do it over again give you more confidence.
Dr. John Maxwell had mentioned so many times that “anything we do the first time will not be perfect”. So, if we invest in ourselves, there is no other way but up.
5. It is important to invest in yourself because it will get you closer to your desires.
I love when John Maxwell said, “some people have uphill hopes, but downhill habits”. Meaning some people want to dream high but are not willing to go through the hardship of getting there.
Which is, to be honest, true. It’s the same with investing money in comparison to getting the information for free. We live in a world of instant gratification.
You wanted food, you don’t have to go to the store, you can grab your phone and have it delivered to your doorstep.
You wanted to watch a movie, you don’t have to go to the movie theatre, you can sit on your couch and buy the movie there.
These are valid things that are beneficial to us but at the same time, investment is still required. Which is money.
What do I mean by investing in yourself will get you closer to your desires though?
Let me give you a specific example. I am confident that this example will give you the message of this post.
One of my desires was to create a blog where I can pour my knowledge and share my journey with you. Also to motivate you to go through your own journey.
As easy as that may sound, it was not an easy journey. Why?
It was not easy because, in order for me to gain knowledge, I have to go through hardship. I have to go through the experience, I have to go through the struggles. I invested in courses. Read books. listened to podcasts and learned from them. When I felt stuck by myself, I invested in hiring a coach. Where I learned more about myself. Started my healing journey. And added more practices that helps me now to become the person I wanted to become.
I, later on, learned that I wanted to make an impact, hence the blog idea came up.
I have no knowledge of how to build a website, let alone a blog. I invested money, time, and effort in learning how to build it.
Learned how to build a website. How to add images, what images to put, to come up with good quality images, and most of all to type up each content every week.
And here it is now.
If I did not invest in myself, If I did not invest time, money, energy in myself. This blog, this website will not come to the surface.
So gorgeous therefore it is important, that any journey you want to take, needs to start with YOU. It is important that you invest in yourself first.
I would love to know your input on this post. Feel free to comment below.
Ahhh, the word itself used to make me cringe. For years, it was something I thought I will never have.
I am from a third-world country who moved to the United States when I was 17 years old. The language used here is English, which is not my native language. and to be quite honest, something I struggled to understand when uttered by the residents in this country. If that does not intimidate a young woman, enough?
I had no confidence in myself and felt small in such a big world.
It is not until I heard from a well-known motivational speaker, Mel Robbins that Confidence is not a personality trait, it is a skill! And one thing about skill, it is something one can learn.
Mel Robbins talked about The Competent Confidence Loop. It is about acting, improving from that action can then build competence, once it is repeated, we develop self-belief, which later boosts confidence.
It sounds so simple, right?
Confidence has a lot of definitions but in its entirety, confidence to me is having the courage to act despite fears and limiting beliefs. And I have applied this definition in everything I do, ever since.
“Okay, easier said than done”, you may comment with your eyes rolling. I understand gorgeous. I did the same exact thing and to tell you the truth, gathering the courage did not happen overnight. Up to this day, I still try to gather the courage to even write this blog, let alone share it with ambitious women like you.
I have provided a few tips on how to start building your confidence with these 5 Ds:
Do what your intuition says:
If your first thought says you wanted to go after a certain task, goal, or whatever the case may be, follow it!
Do not negotiate with yourself:
Analysis paralysis is what we call it. Having a strong desire to do something but your mind comes in and tells you what could go wrong, the answer is no! Do not negotiate!
Do it:
You know when you watch an action movie where the hero(s) attacks the enemy headquarters with guns blazing? Do exactly that, dive into that task with all you’ve got. It does not matter if you have it all figured out yet, just do!
Do it again:
Remember the competence confidence loop? Repetition is key, it’s okay to make mistakes, make the mistakes fast, but learn from those mistakes.
Do celebrate yourself
Gorgeous, we are not meant to suffer or work all the time. Celebrate your accomplishments, even the mistakes, and the lesson learned from them, it is called progress. The more you acknowledge it, the more you will feel confident to do more and look forward to celebrating. Now, I am not saying do an extravagant celebration, it can be small too. Do a spa day, buy yourself a book, take a day off, whatever will fill your soul and make you happy.
Now that you have the initial tricks on how to dive into creating or learning to have confidence. I challenge you to apply them every time you have a task at hand. Try it even on the smallest task that you have been putting off. I assure you, you will feel fulfilled afterward.
Would you like me to keep you in on a little secret? Notice that each step starts with the word “Do” because that is the main key- taking action.
We can think, hope, wish, plan all day, but no action will not help us progress. Now, the ball is in your court, let’s see how you will take the shot. Comment below. Until next time dear.
Always remember,
You are beautiful, you are worthy and most of all, YOU ARE POWERFUL!
