“Marry some rich guy then you’ll be rich!” A piece of love advice that I have heard growing up. And it worked for some people back home but for me, the thought of it made me cringe.
You see, I am a hopeless romantic. I may look tough on the outside, but I am soft and mushy on the inside. I believe in true love. The right man for me is out there but while he is on his venture to find me, I intend to build myself up and become the best version of myself.
I am also a dreamer! I tend to choose the path less traveled because I liked the challenge. It was not long ago that I learned that I have a hunger for challenge. I find it very stimulating that no matter how hard, scary, or nerve-wracking it may be, I will dive into it, headfirst.
Now, going back to the subject, you make small decisions every day that you don’t realize you have the power of. An old mentor of mine, Shari Angelina has this quote, “Stop wasting your time looking for a strategy. You are the strategy!”
You are probably wondering, how?
My dear, let me ask the following questions:
1. Who gets out of bed in the morning to start her day? YOU
Whatever routine you may have in the morning; may that be setting an alarm to make sure you wake up on time, get ready to start your day, that is YOU.
2. Who goes to work to earn a living? YOU
Whatever job or venture you have, to earn an income is all done by you. No one else went through training, you learned, you grew, and now doing the job or work by yourself, it is all YOU!
3. Who makes the decision on what the next chapter of your life would be? YOU
This is my favorite! May you have chosen between…
- going to school or getting a job to help your family?
- following the new fashion trend or sticking to your comfortable clothes?
- leaving your job or staying at your job?
- leaving a relationship or staying in it?
- buying a purse or saving your money?
- choosing to make a change in your life from being poor to being successful?
Those are examples of life choices that are decided by no other than YOU! There are other factors involved, yes. You may have done the research. Confided with another person before making the decision. But at the end of the day, the choice was done by YOU, the action was initiated by YOU.
This may sound scary and puts pressure on yourself but my dear, that is not my intention. My intention is to show you how powerful you are and how in control you can be.
You are playing small. Now, I say this with tough love. And trust me, I’ve been there too. I’ve always had this question in my head, “I know I have potential and I have so much to offer, why am I here?”
And the answer was because I was playing small! It is not until I realized that I have achieved everything I am, everything that I have, big and small because of the decisions that I have made. Not because a friend of mine told me so, or my government, or my family, but it was all me.
The efforts, the late nights, the tears, the sweat, the anger, the fear, the limiting beliefs, I experienced it all. I learned to embrace it and still decided that it is always up to me.
My dear, you experience it all too, now ask yourself this, “Why are you playing small?”
You did not realize all this but now that you do, stop playing small, claim the power that you already have! You are more than capable than you think. You are the strategy!!!