Ernie O Dacumos Gorgeous, can I ask, “Do you know how to build your self-worth?
Is self-worth something you even acknowledge? Or like me, it is something you do not acknowledge often?
We all have reasons why we do not acknowledge our self-worth but it is something that we crave from others to see.
Now, let me ask you this if you don’t see your self-worth, how do you expect others to see it?
If you do not see your value, how would other people know how valuable you are?
Such eye-opening questions that we didn’t know to ask ourselves. It’s honestly not your fault.
You don’t know, what you don’t know. But it is up to you to improve yourself. If you have been following me on Instagram or Facebook, you might have seen that I am a member of the Maxwell Leadership Program.
Part of that program is a mastermind program where we get to join a mastermind for four weeks. It is a good setting to learn from other like-minded individuals. Also to have a first-hand experience of what a Mastermind is. Which prepares us to facilitate our own mastermind in the future.
The book that we read on that mastermind was “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” by Dr. John Maxwell. One of the laws is the “Law of Mirror”, which emphasizes the phrase,
You must see value in yourself, to add value to Yourself.
It states that “You must see your worth within yourself”. You must believe that you are of value first. In order to add value to Yourself.
In that book, Dr. John Maxwell also quoted Dennis Waitley’s comment,
Personal development is the belief that you are worth the effort, time, and energy needed to develop yourself.
Dennis waitley
Let me give you an example
I would like to use myself as an example. I moved here to the United States when I was 17 years old. Had an inferiority complex and did not have the confidence in myself. As a result, I was so afraid to try anything new. Isolated me. And I settled where I was.
But there was this burning desire inside of me. I knew I can do so much more.
There is so much more that I can offer. I did not know how then. But I decided to make a change.
Fast forward to 12 years, and here I am writing these blog posts for you.
So, gorgeous, I would like you to take time for yourself. Look in the mirror. And ask yourself these questions:
Do I value myself?
Am I aware of my self-worth?
If you are unsure of the answer. Or if you know the answer but are not fully confident. I have provided ways how to build your self-worth below.
Ways on How to Build your self-worth
- Positive Self-talk can build your self-worth
- Don’t listen to the nay-sayers
- Move beyond your limiting beliefs
- Practice the high-five habit
- Reading and learning can build your self-worth
Positive self-talk can build your self-worth
I cannot express this enough. Choosing positive self-talk versus negative self-talk will uplift you.
Go ahead and try it. Look in the mirror and say these things to yourself…
I am ugly. And then say, I am authentic. Which one is more uplifting?
The words you say after, “I am” can either uplift you or damage you inside.
Don’t listen to the nay-sayers
Now, I will be bold, I do not care if it is your partner. If it is your mom. Or it’s your best friend. If you have a desire to do something that will help you improve your future, do it!
Do not listen to the people who will tell you that you can’t. I recommend listening to people who are in the field. People who are doing what you wanted to do. Or more so, listen to people who have done it.
The people who are preventing you from taking action towards what you want will have good intentions. But they do not share the same vision. They do not share the same desire.
Move beyond your limiting beliefs
Yes gorgeous, move beyond your limiting beliefs. It is the only way. You will have fears. Limiting beliefs will cripple you. You have to move past that. It will be nerve-wracking. It will be scary. I promise you though, once you’ve moved passed it. You will unstoppable.
Practice the high-five habit
I got this technique from Mel Robin’s book, “The high-five habit”. I highly recommend it. You will have down days. Days where you will feel like shit. You will have days where failure is apparent. We will get through it. And it’s okay. But if you practice the high-five habit. Where you give yourself a high-five in the mirror. Go ahead and do it right now.
When you do this, you are telling yourself, you got this. It is expressing to yourself that it’s okay. And sometimes, that is all you need to move forward.
Reading and learning can build your self-worth
Again, “You must see your value, to add value to yourself” according to Dr. John Maxwell. Now that you are building your self-worth. It is time to invest in you.
Continuing to learn and read helped me grow. And as human beings, we are designed to grow.
If you like to read more about staying positive and building your self-worth, click on the links: Happiness Starts with you and It starts with Self-love, 4 Ways to keep positivity in your life.
There it is gorgeous! Again, if you are reading this blog post, I would love to hear your takeaway. And as always share it with others who may need to learn it too.
