3 Killer ways to show up for yourself

In my whole 34 years of existence, I have learned that life is a roller coaster of emotions. We experience bliss, loss, anger, frustrations, anxiety, and the list goes on.

There would be days where I do not feel like showing up. Days where I want to stay in bed and be miserable. Days where I want to give up. Days where I want to isolate myself and wished the ground would swallow me.

Yes, my dear. I went through it too. We all do. But since you are a warrior and we still show up regardless of feeling like crap, I will share my 3 killer ways of showing up for myself.

  • Acknowledge the emotions that you are feeling

One thing I have incorporated in my life is letting the emotions in, embracing them, and reflecting on them. We are wired to push our emotions away or push them to the side.

Do not fight against pain; do not fight against irritation or jealousy. Embrace it with great tenderness, as though you were embracing a little baby. Your anger is yourself, and you should not be violent toward it. The same goes for all your emotions.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Your emotions are a part of you, pushing them to the side only makes that feeling worst. I did that for ten years and it created this feeling of a black hole on my chest that I could not fill. I didn’t know what to fill it with, how to fill it even because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. It is not until learned to embrace, welcome, and reflect on my emotions that I found healing.

Cry it out if you have to, scream even, but don’t push it to the side. Like you, gorgeous, your emotions are important too.

  • Just get up

Yes, you read it dear, just get up! You may not realize it, it is one of the killer ways to show up for yourself.

You do this already, I know, but not realizing how this small step is powerful enough. Why? Because you made a choice. And that is our power. We all have a choice in life. Choosing to take action is the key.

Don’t think about it at all, it is simple enough, just get up.

If you haven’t read so, refer to the post “5 Little known tricks in becoming Confidently You” and there are more tips there.

  • Do a little extra

I love this! Bad days are already bad, you feel like crap and you don’t want to show up but it doesn’t mean that you can’t look good.

Yes! Look good! Gorgeous, do a little extra when you are getting ready. Put a little extra make-up on, the one you put on when you attend an important gathering. Put a little extra when it comes to your clothing too. Or any other extras that make you feel… good.

Curling my hair, wearing a nice dress with high heels are my little extra when I have to show up for myself. These are the things I don’t do on a daily basis unless there are special events that I have to attend.

My logic is, “I already feel like crap on the inside, why do I have to look like one?”

These ways had given me more confidence to tackle my day even though I feel like sh*t inside and it works every time! Practice these and let me know how it made you feel in the comments below!


  1. […] Now, that you know my ways on how to stay grounded, I would love for you to try them and let me know how they worked for you. Also, check out my post, “3 Killer ways to show up for yourself” for more tips. […]

  2. Thanks for the push I needed today, and the reminder that if I don’t feel like showing up for myself, who will? I am embracing this moment and allowing myself to feel all the good and all the bad. They are all just passing moments and the lessons being taught in the process are the biggest blessings. Proud of you for this! Keep going!

    1. I am so happy that this post gave you the push you needed Carolina. We all needed that jolt of motivation sometimes and the value of the information we consume Yes, I am a huge advocate of living in the moment, be here, now… instead of being occupied with multiple things at the same time. We will not realize how important passing moments are until they’ve already passed and there’s no way of getting them back. Enjoy the journey, before it’s too late.

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